Why women have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be filled with problems, cause despair, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married date.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affairs. I am sure typically though it is only the human state, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
In nature we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against extramarital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to lessen the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest cluster, colossal really. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they feel comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Neglect, sadly this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, usually the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a large humber of reasons. As a male I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be compassion is vanished, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown distantly, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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